I was tagged in a post in a group that I don’t actually remember joining.

So I went to the post to find out what this was all about.In big shouty capitals the post read; ARE YOU STAYING IN THIS GROUP? DELETING PEOPLE THAT DON’T LET ME KNOW YOU STILL WANT IN COMMENT BELOW ” IM IN ”

In big shouty capitals the post read; ARE YOU STAYING IN THIS GROUP? DELETING PEOPLE THAT DON’T LET ME KNOW YOU STILL WANT IN COMMENT BELOW ” IM IN ”

Um…hulloh??

Next thought – who the fuck ARE you and Why am I in your group in the first place and NOW why are you DEMANDING to know if I am sticking around.

So I stopped that thought right in its track because ‘come from a place of love Min’ and I thought, well maybe this is a really cool group. The Admin has obviously just gotten insights in the latest rollout and has found ALL the people that aren’t engaging… so she is having a clean out of the ‘dead wood’ who are affecting the algorithm.

Which kind of makes sense in a Scarcity Mindset sort of way… I guess.

I went to the group and started to scroll to see if there was a point in me sticking around.

The first handful of posts in the group were repeats of the one I had been tagged in – wow this lady was cleaning out EVERYONE.

Then I looked for anything posted by anyone else because ‘community’… for an entire month there was only two posts spamming some local business.

And then…then this one>>
ALL MEMBERS MUST WATCH MY VIDEO ” IM BACK” TO LET ME KNOW IF YOU STILL WANT TO STAY IN

Still, I tried to come from a place of love and compassion – ‘she is just like me, she wants a successful business… she is just like me she wants to REACH people… she is just like me she wants to help as many women as she can’

So I thought I would try to find some points of relatedness – why, I am not sure but maybe because I didn’t want to feel angry any more.

So I watched a livestream and this woman was screaming (truly) at the camera about how she doesn’t always want to work with everyone and how she has a particular ‘type’ of person that she works with and that may not be you… so if it isn’t you then it isn’t you and she will tell you.

Sigh – ok I get it – alignment blah blah.

I have turned down clients before too – if I didn’t get a sense that they would do the work – or be able to do the work. If I just didn’t gel with them because… alignment. But man! I don’t scream at my beautiful followers about it!

It isn’t even ABOUT them. It is a quiet choice that I occasionally have made in the past… but not anymore on account of ONLY calling in the ones that I WANT to work with and that WANT to work with me.

I have been spending a bit of time lately watching the dynamic in FB groups and how the admins nurture and grow the community they have there… or not as the case may be.

I truly believe that I was added to this group without my permission but that aside… when you run a Facebook group, whether there are 10 people or 10,000 people in there… I feel, that you have a DUTY OF CARE to those followers.

If they have chosen to join your group, you are obliged to GIVE them as much of you as you possibly can.

You are obligated to deliver real value to them.

It is your job to create a vibe within the group where people feel safe and valued and appreciated – just for being there.

And IF they feel safe and valued and appreciated the baby they are gonna stick around…

They will build relationships with you AND each other.

They will engage and post and LISTEN to each other’s message.

If you run a group that allows for business promotion then hopefully they will BUY from each other (#peoplebuyfrompeopleinthepowerhouse)

Please don’t shout at your followers. It isn’t nice.

Please give them ALL of your love and LOADS of attention and TEACH them everything you can without holding back.

I promise you that they will pay you back a gazillion times over.